Your heart is racing.   You have finally scored the date with the man of your dreams.  So you go about getting yourself ready to make that killer impression.  You start to feel yourself sweat.  You do the once over in the full length mirror ensuring you have that killer look.  You know the first five seconds are crucial.  There you are, in a cafe with your perfect look, and then all of a sudden, you do it.  You start sabotaging yourself with your inventory of all of your faults flying through the synapses of your mind.

Will he show up?  Will he like me?  Am I pretty enough?  What will I say to keep him interested?  Is this dress too tight?  You get the idea. 

I hope you see where I am going with this.  Don’t forget the number one rule:  You can only be who you are.  First of all, a woman who thinks like this is so concerned about making a good impression that she hasn’t even bothered with the idea of whether or not she will like him.  Dates are about getting to know one another.  Get a feel for this man.  Is he a keeper or do you throw him back to be consumed by the other sharks?  Know what you want.  It should be more than just being in a relationship. 

In the dating world, there are so many unspoken rules.  The expectations of relationships building, sex, and love.  People say one thing, and project another through their body language.  It is normal to be a little nervous.  You don’t just let a person have Carte Blanche entry into your life.  There are normal stages of discovery to go through, and though you may feel like you have been struck by lightening when you meet this person.  Remember, in this seemingly free and easy society, it is good thing to leave some mystery.

Some people would call mystery, game playing.  Seduction and sensuality could perceived as games.  However, deep down, people don’t want something that is easily obtained.  They want the dance of discovery.  They want to feel there is something more that creates a hunger.  An air of confidence that exudes a sensuality that drives a person mad with desire.  

I want you to try something.  I want you to go out to a club and look at how many women are taking overnight bags with them, well, not quite overnight, but you know what they look like.  I have talked to a few of these women, and they don’t realize how they are sabotaging themselves.  They complain that all a man wants from them is sex.  What they fail to realize is that is all they are offering these men.  In a way, it’s like they are selling themselves for a few drinks.  Whatever their motivating factors are, to find sex, love, money, or ego–they have taken their desirability and trashed it by making themselves too easy to obtain.

Men love the chase.  

So as you may sitting there, waiting for your date to arrive.  Think about how valuable you are.  How much power you have.  This man has agreed to meet you because there is something about you that appeals to him.  Play the cards of discovery and you will find that it a great thing to be chased.  Nothing makes a woman feel more desired than when a man is pursuing her.