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Our lives are often a stressful blur of earning a living, looking after family, being social and doing all the things we try to cram into a limited time. More often than not, we don’t make time for our partners, let alone to meditate on our lives.

The art of meditation is to keep the mind clear and not focus on thoughts. Let thoughts come and go, but do not linger over them. Making love in this way means relegating your thoughts and focusing on creating a mind-body-soul connection.

Start off with a hot bath or shower to share an intimate moment before you begin, just to let go of the working day or check in with yourself. The idea is to create an atmosphere that will bring about a deep level of erotic relaxation.

Exploring with sexual touch is powerful and incredibly intimate. Try to shake off your inhibitions  be free of any self-consciousness, asking your partner being touched to wear a blindfold may free you up to move and touch in ways that might feel awkward if you were being watched. Start with the feet and work your way up, treating your partner’s body as a wonderful work of art. Notice how your partner reacts to your touch and how you respond in turn. As you are touching your partner, visualise energy flowing out of your body and into your partner.

Be focused in the moment; if your mind starts to wander, rein in your thoughts. We are often around a person, but rarely ‘with’ them. As we concentrate on our partners, we open our eyes to see much more than what is visible on the surface. The depth of our connections relies on our willingness to be open – not simply voicing our innermost emotions or desires, but making a soul connection.